| The Flipsides of the Bread of Shame | 4 comments |
 7 Oct 2004 @ 21:01, by Max Sandor(Italian version / italiano) To understand the phenomenon of "nehama d’ksufa" (bread of shame), Kabbalists use the following picture: "G.d" unfolded itself into two parts, a source and a vessel. Like one is pouring wine from a bottle into a container like a chalice, there is a point where the vessel is full. To 'reunite' itself, there must be flow back. This they often call the 'way home'. There seem to be at least two different definitions of "nehama d’ksufa" (bread of shame) around (please e-mail or post other definitions which you heard): a) the backflow itself, that means the flowing of the wine from the chalice back into the bottle, b) the spilling of wine in the process In the dynamics of polarities we don't want to accept the same label for two different things. Let's call the first phenomenon simply 'backflow' or a "clean flow" and the second a "dirty flow". For anyone who studied "Polar Dynamics", it is immediate clear how these flows relate to polarities, but it is apparently not clear enough how these rather abstract descriptions apply to life itself. Here are some definitions to embed it into the language of polar dynamics:.... 1. ALL polarities act in the way of the Primal Polarity (the first unfolding) because of the fractal nature of this Universe 2. we call the equilibrium of both parts a "neutralization" 3. if there is a singular EXCESS of energy, we call it a "supercharge" (or "peakstate"). 4. If there is 'spilled wine', they constitute a 'negative or reverse charge'. Here is a list of observations (pls add on to the list, it is only partial): A. Negative charge accumulates in daily life 24/7 (24 hours, 7 days a week). There is no way around it. Conclusion: one must actively balance oneself as long as one is alive in this world. B. A supercharge can be generated deliberately by the Girapoli exercises and by traditional exercises if the person is ready for that level or by pure chance. To create such supercharges is the goal of most religions and philosophies. It is the 'dhamma ariya', the 'noble thing' in Buddism, for example. C. a 'spilled wine' or reverse charge is the same phenomenon as an 'out-exchange' condition. If such a condition exists, the following will occur invariably unless the flow is cleaned: - the originator of the flow (the 'giver' of the bread of shame), will feel guilty and become the EFFECT of the recipient (also called a PTS condition). The giver enters a'SP' condition, in other words becomes a suppressor for the recipient. - as a result, the inflow will become blocked, first for the recipient, THEN, in a second stage, for the giver as well. This is true for national politics and one's family and circle of friends alike. - in the third stage, the recipient of the flow that created the 'spilled wine', in other words the recipient of the bread of shame, WILL ATTACK the source of this condition, either overtly or covertly. - it is important to recognize the exact stages in the latter observations: we can clearly witness what we call the "inversion of a polarity". D. It is of utmost importance to be aware of the fact that an occurence of 'bread of shame' is NOT an isolated, rare event. They only become blatantly obvious in some extreme conditions. At least ONE basic (or most basic??) bread of shame is born (quite literally) in the mother-child relationship: a human cannot possible 'pay back' for the act of giving life to the person. E. Some very basic reverse charges, such as the mother-child relation, can INVERSE OTHER polarities on a person. The inversions are well known from Constellation Work, EFT/PEAT, etc, and can ONLY and ONLY be cleaned after finding the UNDERLYING out-exchange situation. F. A very deep reverse charge can only be undone by a physical act of giving something back to the source of the 'spilled wine'. In Ifa this is done by what is called an 'Ebo'. A lot of pioneering work in this respect was done by Bert Hellinger in his specific way of constellations. He (and his practitioners), are using a rock that they let the person give BACK to the source of the spilled wine. G. The above confirms in a new way the suppressiveness of excessive altruism, a phenomenon often witnessed in constellation work. Like excessive egoism, it creates 'bread of shame' and is extremely suppressive. H. An "abstract" exchange does NOT always work! For basic reverse charges, a physical particle MUST pass in order to balance them. We call this often a 'via'. There is a need to create these physical objects or vias, at least temporarily for the balancing to work. I. "Envy/Jealosy": these two unholy sisters (or brothers??) are BASED UPON such reverse charges. They are NOT just simply 'negative emotions'. This is the reason why there are no effective standard processes to handle them (An exception seems to be the QLFP rundown, see Purple Notebook, but the QLFP typically results in an exchange like described above.) J. The way the latter builds upon reverse charges needs further investigation. Since it is deeply integrated in other mechanism, it would be a good start for the discovery/formulation of a more complete 'matrix of triads', as proposed by Ed Dawson (see earlier articles). For example, it clearly links the KRC and ARC triangles. Because of its fundamental characterics, one could even speculate that the 'bread of shame' *represents* the cosmic glue that connects ALL the triads. K. For teachers: in any group activity lies inherently the danger of out-exchange situations since the teacher addresses many persons at the same time, each of them having a different level of exchange. Optimally, every person would give an individual exchange but for practical reasons this is difficult to apply. L. Detection: the detection of 'bread of shame' could be said to be the purpose of consulting Ifa. The remedy consists in act of an Ebo as needed for the situation. Another way of finding reverse charges is constellation work. In daily life, there is still another way: it is well known that every person dramatizes its very own condition. In short, a person that *accuses* another group or person has a 'bread of shame' of a related kind. This is hard to accept by people who are in a state of constant overwhelm, in other words the majority of today's population. M. Because of its basic nature, the phenomenon of the 'bread of shame' is very difficult to teach to people, perhaps impossible. One could come to the conclusion that one of the basic purposes of a human life is to bring about the awareness of it along with its balancing. |